So, I’m watching “Rocketman” this morning and I just start crying. You have this prodigy, who’s talent is incredibly rare, but whose life was full of pain for decades.
I hate all the pain I see in people. And I see it everyday.
I have students who hug on me, follow me, confide in me and I wonder where their family is. Their friends. How did they get to this point in their life without the comfort, love, and support they so desperately need?
Then, I talk about horrible things in my classes: rape, child sexual abuse, domestic violence, bullying. And I NEVER, EVER give any of these lectures without at least 5 students reaching out to me afterwards to tell me they’d be a victim of the topic. EVER.
|How many students do this?|
I hear stories from students about being sexually abused by a family member when they were as young as 3. Or raped as a high schooler, but not being able to tell anyone because they felt the shame was theirs. Or students who grew up with violent parents, and who tried to shield their siblings from the worst of it. Or women who left an abuser after years because they realized it was either that, or facing the possibility that their next beating could be their last. Or guys who have told me they are gay, but had to put on this ‘tough’ persona in front of family and friends, because they knew if they didn’t, they would be bullied and ostracized by those they cared for the most.
So many people out there are in pain. So many have stories we can’t imagine. And here’s the thing: until we start really seeing people, and not shying away from actual connection; until we start asking the WHY behind behavior instead of just punishing it or judging it; until we ask people how they are and truly stop to listen; until we look at a kid and see they need a hug instead of discipline; until we drop our own masks and show that it’s ok to not be ok, things are never going to change.
How is it we live in what’s supposed to be this connected world, yet people are more lonely and disconnected than ever? How can we let so many people suffer in silence? And why can’t we say the simple words of “I care?”
|Maybe this needs to be reversed.|